[p. 10]III. Courtship
2. If a young woman loves a girl, he asks for permission to visit her. The young man is sometimes accompanied by another young man.
3. The parents of the girl put the young man to a test. If he is accepted, he stays in the house of the girl and works for her parents. He repairs the house, works in the farm and in the house. This may last for a duration of time, say three or four months, depending upon the agreement. This custom is called “paninilbihan.”
4. The young man shows his love for a lady by an evening serenade. The parents of the girl ask the boy and his companions to enter the house. Then, they have singing.
5. Later, the boy sends the girl love letters to which the girl sends no reply. After at least a dozen letters, the girl writes the man a short note telling him to stop. If the boy persists, the girl gives many alibis.
6. The boy is then invited to visit the girl. After a number of visits, the man and the girl come to an agreement. This time, the parents of both parties speak for the children.
7. Usually, a feast is held when the marriage is celebrated.
2. The family of the groom is expected to shoulder all the expenses of the wedding.
3. The groom’s family usually prepares food and refreshments for the wedding. The feast is held in the home of the bride, although the latter lives in another place. The relatives of the groom do the serving and entertainment.
4. After the wedding and the feast, the groom is usually left in the house of the bride and the bride goes with the family of the groom. This is often not followed because in some cases, the couple goes for a honeymoon.
5. The lavishness of the feast depends upon the social standing of the couple being married.
[p. 11]V. Death
2. The neighbors and friends help the family of the deceased. Some make wreaths and some help in the preparation of food. Still others help in the making of the grave.
3. The family of the deceased serve food.
4. Prayers for the deceased are set for nine consecutive nights. In the prayer, games are played to cheer the family of the deceased. On the ninth day, usually a feast is held. This feast is called the “pasiyam.”
5. The relatives of the dead abstain from enjoyment as dancing and playing.
6. Relatives of the dead wear black clothes or black armbands for a period of one year.
7. After the mourning period, the family celebrates a feast which is called the “babang luksa.”
8. On the fourth day after the burial, the family of the deceased takes a bath and cleans the house or fixes everything that has become topsy-turvy.
9. The last wishes of the dead are faithfully carried out so that the family may not be haunted.
2. Relatives usually are cautioned not to let tears drop on the dead, lest something unexpected may happen.
3. The younger members of the family are carried across the coffin so that they will not be haunted by the ghost.
2. On Christmas Eve, a mass [is] usually said and after the mass, the what we call “media noche” is held.
3. Children and even old folks visit godparents and relatives.
4. Christmas is not usually happily celebrated if no new clothes are worn.
2. Children make what we call “bamboo cannon,” and they go around making lots of sun and noise. Sometimes, mischievous pranksters hide ladders and other things in the yard so that owners the next morning have to retrieve them.
3. Houses are cleaned very well to greet the New Year; food is cooked for the midnight feast and rice bins and water jars are filled to insure plenty during the coming year.
C. All Saints Day
2. Masses are said for the dead.
3. At night, groups of young people go around asking for alms in the form of “suman,” bananas, eggs, chickens, or money. They sing songs about the suffering of Christ, Our Lord, usually called “Pitong Sakit.”
D. St. John’s Day
2. Children douse all passers-by with water to commemorate the day of St. John, the Baptist.
E. Easter and Lent
2. The “Pabasa” is usually held during the Holy Week.
3. On Palm Sunday, people go to church to have palms blessed by the priest. Little children participate in the “Hosanna.”
4. On Holy Friday, the “Siete Palabras” are held to commemorate the seven last words uttered by Our Lord.
5. On Easter Sunday, we have what we call “Hallelujah.”
Man as time goes on continues to improve and learn. Yet, man’s progress in education has not succeeded in wiping away these prevalent customs and superstitious beliefs. Among the superstitious beliefs are the following:
2. To insure prosperity and security, the bride and the groom must have money in their pockets at the time of the wedding.
3. In any wedding ceremony, the party who desires to be dominant in the family must do any of the following:
b. To press tightly on the hand of the other party at the said part of the ceremony.
c. To be first to go out of the church after the ceremony.
d. To be the first one to reach the house, they will first go after the ceremony.
5. In going to the house of the groom, the bride must not be accompanied by any member of the family, otherwise she will not know how to deal equally [and] fairly with her in-laws.
6. In order that the newly-married couple may be blessed with many children, pots, plates, and other wares are to be broken after the wedding ceremony.
2. If a woman sees her clothes on herself, she stands the danger of having a child with closed buttocks.
3. If she goes under the house in the late afternoon, she must get out of it directly looking backwards, else she shall undergo a painful delivery.
5. To insure a prompt and painless delivery, the midwife shall put a ladle at her back.
2. In order that the child may inherit the good traits of the godparents, the latter must infuse into the child’s head while the child is being baptized.
2. The grains or seeds to be planted must be removed to the field at midnight in order that these plants would not be easily destroyed by animals.
3. While planting banana stalks, the planter must not look up in order that the banana plants may not grow tall.
4. While planting watermelon, the planter who desires to have the watermelon very red must chew betel nuts while planting.
2. If the fire produces a laughing sound, a visitor is expected.
3. If there are fire streaks under the pot or [blurred word], money or [a] visitor is expected on that day.
4. While the rice is being cooked, the ladle cannot be struck down into it, otherwise, that rice when eaten shall cause stomach ache to anyone who eats it.
2. If there are 13 at the table while eating, one must give way, else something bad may happen.